Growing up is hardly ever a smooth sailing transition. Before you get to open waters, you’ve got to watch out for the riptides. Interestingly, for better or for worse, we’re not alone. That’s where family comes in. They’ve got your back. They are all you’ve ever known. They assure you that you can always feel safe with them.
But that’s not always the case now, is it? We live in a reality where life is never a one-size-fits-all scenario.
Going back to the topic of growing up, it is a journey that calls for tough decision making. There are no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ choices. All that exists are the ones you make, and that calls for you to be wholly responsible for them. It is only natural that not everyone can agree with your wants and needs. It goes without saying that they just don’t see themselves in them.
In such cases, the right thing is hardly ever the best thing. This is the part of growing up where your perceptions of the people you once grew up with changes. You will begin to mould your own definition of the concept of family. And that’s okay. Change is the only thing that is constant, and family dynamics aren’t an exception to that.
Here are some things you could do when you feel hated by your loved ones. Let’s give you an idea on how to work through negative sentiments healthily.
Racing thoughts are inconsistent, rapid thought patterns that we have little to no control over. Everything that pops into your mind feels spontaneous and so random you can’t make sense of any of it. Your mind is clearly still active; restless, even if your body is feeling otherwise. It gets easy to feel overwhelmed by it.
Sometimes, it’s a symptom of depression or anxiety, or even, both. It is entirely possible for the two psychological abnormalities to be a comorbidity of each other. The underlying root is the same: we hold onto negative expectations, and believe it to be inescapable.
But you’re not alone! It happens to everyone and at any moment in their lives. It’s just another one of life’s long series of solvable problems.
Sometimes you can’t help it. Feeling anxious is another form of fear. Anxiety is the kind of worry you have over an exaggerated, expected event to happen in your life. You anticipate the worst imaginable outcome so that you’ll supposedly be mentally prepared for it should it happen.
Nothing will put your mind at peace. You’ll think obsessively about it; become so overwhelmed by it that you can’t hold water. It is only until you could see the end result for yourself will you be able to resolve your inner conflict.
So why plan B? The idea is to cope with your anxiety until the moment of truth arrives. How ever long the wait may be I implore you to put your time and energy into thinking of an alternative solution. You’ve got to have all your options out on the table. It sure beats beating yourself up with no other choices in mind.
Think of plan B as another route to getting to the same destination you initially intended with plan A. You aren’t settling for less, you’re just giving yourself a better shot at succeeding. Your life is full of second chances. It’s all about finding the right places, so bide your time.
“The most successful people are those who are good at Plan B.”