Uncertain times can get the better of us. When so much is on the line, you begin to feel lost and desperate for a definitive answer. And you want it now. It’s almost as if you’re bargaining with fate. Chances are you’re bored and there’s nothing more to be done about your circumstances, except to wait anxiously.
You could only stay quiet for so long. Or can you actually pull that off?
Patience goes a long way. It’s another problem on its own, but a solvable one. Patience is a learned behaviour so don’t expect yourself to master the art overnight. All in all, no one really holds onto patience so perfectly; there are times we lose sight of it. It’s all done in the name of trying.
When we wait for something, we’re often waiting with something, too. Sometimes, our minds get accompanied with thoughts of alarming worry, or even the worst extremes, despair and regret. We feel overwhelmed. Optimism isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but I can assure that the best of its properties are somewhere along the bitterness.
So, remember how your parents used to ground you for weeks on end for a misdemeanour you made as a child? Well, this is a different sort of grounding because this time, it’s going to be on your terms.
Practice daily mindfulness
Mindfulness encompasses gratitude, acceptance, and overall satisfaction with one’s present moment. It could be put into practice in quite literally everything you do, whether it is playing a video game, taking a long walk, sitting through a lecture, on an outing with friends or by yourself.
Mindfulness is said to be a choice; to be fully immersed in our present that we refrain from stressing about the past or the future. We take on our day-to-day challenges with curiosity instead of judgment and criticism. Another factor that contributes to the success of practicing mindfulness is kindness.
Showing kindness towards others and ourselves is important in trying to find zen. We all deserve to slow down and find our inner peace.
The art of mindfulness has come a long way in the fields of clinical psychology and psychiatry. It is applied into many therapeutic applications, namely in treatments for depression, anxiety, addiction, and more. At its core, mindfulness is really about letting go of our problems momentarily. Just long enough until we get a readjustment of perspective, and evaluate how to tackle the situation with a clearer and sound mind.
Stay active in your social life
Regardless of how independent we become, our lives will eventually find its way back to cross paths with other people. So, cherish your loved ones.
Plan to go out with your friends, or play a board game with your family members. Take turns to be each other’s shoulder to cry on; have someone to confide your worries with. You’ll never know what perspectives they might have to pinpoint for you. Let there be a clear understanding that you don’t have to solve everything on your own.
On some occasions, you don’t have to talk anything remotely personal if you don’t feel up for it. Do what you think feels natural. The most important aspect is to make smiling feel a lot less harder to do.
It’s just that sometimes getting things off your chest can be the most relieving thing you could do for yourself. For all you know, the person you confide to may have some words of encouragement that could motivate you to see your situation in a more positive light.
Utilise your hobbies
To quote the late 19th century Canadian physician William Osler, “No man is really happy or safe without a hobby.” Well, this is the ultimate test of having hobbies. It is in knowing how to use them mindfully.
Do something that peaks your happiness. With time permitting, spend hours on it if possible. Hone the skills that make you happy with yourself. You could always work on your other projects that do not implicate your studies or career.
A big part of having a hobby is to express yourself. Show what you’re capable of on the field, read your favourite genres to fill your heart’s content, or explore an artwork with all the colours you had never known before. There is always more to a person than just their career goals and social obligations.
Stand by your hobbies as you would with your relationships with others. Certainly, it is in those moments you spend with the ones you love, and doing the things you’re most passionate about is when you are at your best possible self. You’ll only continue to progress from there.
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