Sometimes you can’t help it. Feeling anxious is another form of fear. Anxiety is the kind of worry you have over an exaggerated, expected event to happen in your life. You anticipate the worst imaginable outcome so that you’ll supposedly be mentally prepared for it should it happen.
Nothing will put your mind at peace. You’ll think obsessively about it; become so overwhelmed by it that you can’t hold water. It is only until you could see the end result for yourself will you be able to resolve your inner conflict.
So why plan B? The idea is to cope with your anxiety until the moment of truth arrives. How ever long the wait may be I implore you to put your time and energy into thinking of an alternative solution. You’ve got to have all your options out on the table. It sure beats beating yourself up with no other choices in mind.
Think of plan B as another route to getting to the same destination you initially intended with plan A. You aren’t settling for less, you’re just giving yourself a better shot at succeeding. Your life is full of second chances. It’s all about finding the right places, so bide your time.
“The most successful people are those who are good at Plan B.”James A. Yorke
The Concept of a Foreseeable Future
A foreseeable future is any point in time that is not too long from now. At its core, the basis of its concept is heavily based on our own assumptions. The thing about relying on those assumptions is that it leads to pointless overthinking, which further leads to excessive worrying.
Life is a three-part journey. Not always will you come across clean and decisive victories. As much as anxiety is a part of life, so are your failures and rejections. Nothing is certain to be a loss until you deem it so.
It is only natural for you or anyone to fear the unknown. That is very much what a future represents: the unknown. Anything could happen. All we could do is embrace it.
When you imagine something to happen in your foreseeable future, regardless of how illogically sound it is, you would think that the outcome will continue to affect you indefinitely. That is exactly why everyone tends to be biased at constructing a worst-case scenario and putting more emphasis on it. You’d rather live off a worry, expecting the worst than giving yourself what might-be false hope.
Nobody can avoid eventualities; things that are most definitely certain to occur. What you can avoid, however, is overthinking about it. Somehow, you’ll just have to cross that bridge once you reach it.
Ridding yourself of expectations
Here’s a fun idea: Don’t overthink things. It is easier said than done, but there is great solace in trying. You cannot change your current circumstances with worrying. Regret won’t get you anywhere.
By focusing on the present time, you can accept being happy. If you are contented now, and you’re determined to keep up an optimistic attitude, you’ll always find a reason to be happy no matter what comes next. And what better measure is there than to formulate a back-up plan for yourself?
It’s best to be hopeful with plan A, while also having plan B as your fail-safe. It all comes down to having a sense of security during the waiting process. Patience is a virtue. With creativity, it could mean for you doing something more productive.
Expectations kill happiness. If you were unable to achieve something by your standards, then your perception towards all other upcoming stages and alternatives will be similar to that of failure. Being unable to meet your expectations does not mean that you are prevented from reaching your goals.
Goals are a subjective matter altogether. There is never only one way to get it. It’s just that some paths may take longer than others, and not all paths are equally difficult.
It’s never easy to adjust to more positive outlooks. That is why your back-up plan has got to be solid and well thought out. No loopholes, avoid technicalities, and certainly never doubt yourself. You need to firmly believe that you’ll have plan B to lean back on.
It’s not always about having the right ideas, it’s all about making the proper executions. The trick to having better faith in any of your plans is to not make them vague. A clear, specific resolution is more effective at dispelling anxiety than obscure ones.
By having well crafted schemes, you are essentially shedding much needed light on your way to achieving your goals. You’ll have a clearer idea on what has to be done, not to mention the build up of confidence, and to have the facts on your side.
In the end of the day, a back-up plan is still a plan. It is your plan. If you play your cards right, good planning will lead to a better chance of success.
Does plan B interfere with plan A?
At the start and along your journey with plan A, it is advisable that you acknowledge the availability of a back-up plan, but it shouldn’t be your main focus. Instead, only after you’ve done everything you could to make plan A work and yet you’re still uncertain of the end result, then that is the most appropriate moment for you to prepare for plan B.
Let’s say you’ve tried your level best to get into your dream school, (let’s call it) school A. Instead of stressing yourself out, you’ve got school B in mind, too. Once all is settled on your end; such as securing funds, applications, and interview preparations, you’re going to be left pending for review.
You’ve done your part, and there is nothing left that needs to be done. You should only consider the alternative choice once you’ve exhausted all your efforts into trying to make the initial plan work.
Plan B is ultimately a comforter. It just comes to show that if you do get things your way, then that’s good; and if things were to take the unfortunate turn, then you’d still be good.
Plan B will only hinder plan A if you take on a defeatist mindset, that your initial A game is destined for failure from the start. That is the literal definition of quitting.
It’s all about recovery
It’s established that anxiety is inevitable. You are bound to experience that kind of dread on multiple occasions in your life. There is no avoiding it; the only way out is to work through the pain and turmoils.
The truth about hitting rock bottom is that some experiences of the sort are more impactful than others. Sometimes, your anxiety could be a comorbidity of depression. Still, you’re going to need to recover from feeling lost and hopeless.
A back-up plan is basically an insurance for all the things that could go wrong. With that sense of security in mind, you can proceed to go on without having to prolong your worries.
Anxiety, much like its equally ugly twin, depression, leaves you emotionally and physically drained. They both develop upon the feeling of hopelessness. By giving yourself the thought that there is still something you could do about your concerns is good enough to ward off despair.
Once you’ve done all you could to make plan A work, only then do you put in all your dedication into making plan B work, too. Keep yourself busy by building up your confidence. Surely, one (or both) of your attempts are bound to succeed.
Focus on a self-care plan
Think of this as a side mission until you reach the endgame. Your plan B does not always have to be a long-term effort. Your plan B can also be the simple things you do for yourself, too. In fact, you’re allowed to have as many back-up plans as you’d like. Just remember bear in mind of good time management.
Self-care can be remotely anything that keeps your mind at peace. It could be a savoury treat, a solo stroll, window-shopping with friends, or even listening to your Spotify playlist. Do things that keep you grounded to the present moment.
Usually it is during the times you spend alone with your thoughts whilst doing enlightening activities will your mind open up to more optimistic ideas and possibilities. Anxiety could cloud your judgement. Choose to be happy even when things are most uncertain, or you could waste that chance with worrying instead.
Enjoy the process of waiting. Before anything is finalised, work on your plan B and self-care. Those may very well be the things that could help you learn new sides about yourself, including how you deal with patience.
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